Gavriella's art word: the clan syndrome
Did you know that being excluded of society makes us feel scared to grow our business?
I hope that you had a fab week!
Here is a learning I had this week.
You might have heard that the reason we are scared to be visible in our business, is that we used to need as a society, to be part of groups, clans, and our lives would depend on this.
The reason this would threaten our lives is that when you get visible, when you stand up, some people won’t like it, and they won’t like to think that you are taking room and power (even though you have just as much room and power as they do).
You’ll tell me this is still happening today, and I agree with you.
This still actually happens and that's one reason it's still hard to become and stay visible online.
When you get visible, and when you create momentum in your art business, you will attract more people around your business.
Amongst these people, many will be supportive, and some won't like you. A few of these people will also tell you about it. That happens every time, always.
And anytime you will get a negative answer, feedback, etc, it will hurt, of course and you will be thinking of stopping to show up.
And you know that you have to show up consistently to grow your business.
So here are a few tips about remembering not to take negative comments or rejection personally:
Negative comments and rejection show that you are getting more visible and
Think about the balance. Business is about numbers. The more people you get visible to, the more you sell. So the more negative comments you get, the more positive you will get too.
These comments aren't about you or your business. Remember: what you are doing is that you're helping people. If they reject your artworks they just let you know they're not the right people for your artwork. You can now disconnect with them and move onto the next potential client.
You can find systems to remove the emotions from being rejected. For example when someone answers me 'no', I answer with a standard answer. I don't do that to lack respect, but to protect my feelings and keep going. Their nos are not related to your own progress! You still progress when people say no.
The fact that people tell you off or reject your artworks is a great sign.
When you get a negative answer, congratulate yourself and keep showing up. You're progressing!
Let me know in the comments: how do you feel when you are rejected in business?
All the best,